Love for No Good Reason

“We ought to love children “for no good reason.” What counts is not that we believe we love them unconditionally, but that they feel loved in that way.” – Alfie Kohn

What makes a child feel loved?

A few ideas:

Listening to them without multi-tasking or looking at our phones. Prioritizing spending time with them whenever we can.

Asking them about things they’re thinking about or interested in.

Making sure they know we still think they are a good person even if we have to correct them by leading with empathy and acknowledging their point of view.

Giving them the benefit of the doubt and believing that they are doing the best they can.

Letting the love we feel in our hearts show in our actions and on our faces by delighting in our child whenever possible.

Accepting them for who they are not who we wish they were.

What other ideas do you have? Leave them below.